Tag Archives: Helping Others

The 3 Words Used By Highly Emotionally Intelligent People

Sorry. Please. Thank you. #KindnessMatters

What should we really start with having in mind that emotional intelligence is nothing but just a list of things to check or exams to pass? Where can I start when I don’t have time to read books, perform EQ tests or develop new skills? Three words are enough!

Source: The 3 Words Used By Highly Emotionally Intelligent People

Six Habits of Highly Compassionate People | Greater Good Magazine

“When we’re tempted to be harsh, critical, and judgmental with ourselves, can we instead choose to have compassion: acknowledging our suffering, noting how this makes us human and that we are not alone, and trying to be gentle or kind with ourselves (or at least refrain from beating ourselves up—’if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all’)?”

Source: Six Habits of Highly Compassionate People | Greater Good Magazine

Six Ways to Help People Change | Greater Good

“If you want to influence other people’s behavior, then you need to develop trust. The core of trust in persuasive interactions is authenticity—the degree to which people think that the public face you have adopted fits who you really are inside. When people feel you are telling them things you truly believe, they are less likely to be skeptical of their interactions with you.”

Source: Six Ways to Help People Change | Greater Good

The Complete Guide to What To Do Before, During, and After a Disaster

The Complete Guide to What To Do Before, During, and After a Disaster

“Do you know how to actually protect yourself during an earthquake or hurricane? What about a tornado or fire? You’ve probably heard lots of conflicting information over the years. We hope you won’t ever need it, this start-to-finish guide to handling disasters will help you remember what you should really do during an emergency and afterwards to recover as quickly as possible.”

Resources for Helping People, Especially Children, Discuss Recent School Shootings

I know many people are struggling with how to make sense of the recent shooting at the school in Connecticut and other shootings that have occurred in various parts of the country in recent months. Below are resources you may find helpful as you discuss these events with family, friends, students, colleagues, and clients.

1.  Mental Health America has developed guidelines to help Americans respond and cope with tragic events, which can be found at www.mentalhealthamerica.net/go/information/get-info/coping-with-disaster.

To guide discussions about the shooting, Mental Health America offers the following suggestions for parents as they communicate with young people in the area and across the nation:

  • Talk honestly about the incident, without graphic detail, and share some of your own feelings about it.
  • Encourage young people to talk about their concerns and to express their feelings, and validate the young person’s feelings and concerns.
  • Limit television viewing. It can be difficult to process the images and messages in news reports.
  • Recognize what may be behind a young person’s behavior. They may minimize their concerns outwardly, but may become argumentative, withdrawn or allow their school performance to decline.
  • Keep the dialogue going even after media coverage subsides. Continue to talk about feelings and discuss actions being taken to make schools and communities safer.
  • Seek help when necessary. If you are worried about a young person’s reaction or have ongoing concerns about his/her behavior or emotions, contact a mental health professional at their school or at your community mental health center. Your local Mental Health America Affiliate can direct you to resources in your community.

Mental Health America’s website has a number of additional resources on its website to help provide support and perspective to those directly affected by the tragedy and the nation as a whole (http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/go/information/get-info/coping-with-disaster.)

2. Comprehensive list of resources related to child trauma and school crises developed by the Center for School Mental Health at the University of Maryland (http://csmh.umaryland.edu).